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Subject: Negative friend
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tazdevil 25.01.19 - 09:00pm
Forgive me for the long post, but I need some advice about a friend of mine.

So about 10 years ago (now this is where it gets long lol) I met this girl on a chat site, and we ended up becoming REALLY close friends. We talked daily, but there was always some sort of drama happening with her. I'm not gonna go into details, but she was always whining, feeling depressed, crying for attention, didn't want to be alive etc. So as an end result, I stopped communication with her and deleted her because she started to suck the life out of me.

Then after a year or so, I visited her profile to check on her and noticed that she hadn't been online since our fall out. No new posts or updates, and it left me worried sick. Tried calling her, but even her number was out of service. I cried and cried because I thought she was dead. I felt guilty and responsible

Recently (after 6 or 7 years) she messaged me on FB from a secretive profile. Guys, I was SO happy. I cried happy tears. Real human salt water tears. Now I'm not going to say her business that has been happening for the past years, but I feel like she hasn't changed. She is STILL a negative Nancy.

I feel like she is not learning, and she keeps inflicting pain on herself by putting herself in sad situations. She has been talking really negative about life and people lately, and I'm really starting to get filled with dread every time she calls/texts. You see, all she ever seems to have going on are the bad things. Can anyone offer me any tips on how to make things a bit easier? * +

tazdevil 25.01.19 - 09:00pm
Now I understand that we all have bad days, and I really like to help/support my friends when they turn to me for comfort. But with her, it's 24/7. I try to cheer her up as much as I can, but it gets SO exhausting. Whenever I ask her how her day is, she says 'rubbish' followed by endless rants about her day/life and people. Pls help me I'm begging! * +

crail 25.01.19 - 09:04pm
I've met a few people like this over the years here

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crail 25.01.19 - 09:06pm
I have no advice

just can't stand those type of people. Mostly female too * +

tazdevil 25.01.19 - 09:15pm
I feel bad for posting this now crail because I have a soft corner for her

I want to look out for her, but I have my own sanity/mental health to look out for first. Is that bad or sound selfish? * +

crail 25.01.19 - 09:18pm
No, people like that drain your soul * +

mz.c 25.01.19 - 09:21pm
Yeah I've cut someone out my life before who was like that because it was making me feel crap. It was constant self inflicted drama. * +

bozzalad 25.01.19 - 09:24pm

@ tazdevil - 25.01.19 - 09:00pm
Forgive me for the long post, but I need some advice about a friend of mine.

So about 10 years ago (now this is where it gets long lol) I met this girl on a chat site, and we ended up becoming REALLY close friends. We talked daily, but there was always some sort of drama happening with her. I'm not gonna go into details, but she was always whining, feeling depressed, crying for attention, didn't want to be alive etc. So as an end result, I stopped communication with her and deleted her because she started to suck the life out of me.

Then after a year or so, I visited her profile to check on her and noticed that she hadn't been online since our fall out. No new posts or updates, and it left me worried sick. Tried calling her, but even her number was out of service. I cried and cried because I thought she was dead. I felt guilty and responsible

Recently (after 6 or 7 years) she messaged me on FB from a secretive profile. Guys, I was SO happy. I cried happy tears. Real human salt water tears. Now I'm not going to say her business that has been happening for the past years, but I feel like she hasn't changed. She is STILL a negative Nancy.

I feel like she is not learning, and she keeps inflicting pain on herself by putting herself in sad situations. She has been talking really negative about life and people lately, and I'm really starting to get filled with dread every time she calls/texts. You see, all she ever seems to have going on are the bad things. Can anyone offer me any tips on how to make things a bit easier?

mirror mirror on the wall who is the nicest of them all
the mirror laughed and gave a grunt
and said it sure ain't you you whinging c.un.t * +