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Subject: 80 reasons someone might not stop an assault
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nomnom 1.11.17 - 08:25pm
1. Freeze reaction
2. Easier to just go along with it, it'll be over sooner
3. The violation is violent, so it seems dangerous to speak up
4. The violation is non-violent, so it doesn't seem like a big deal
5. Surprise
6. Shock
7. Annoyed acceptance
8. You've already said 'stop' a bunch of times and are getting desensitized
9. Attempts to talk it out without creating a fuss, it's just emotional distress after all
10. Drugs or alcohol
11. Wrong expectations
12. Your sexual boundaries were already disrespected, so what's the point
13. There isn't anything sexual going on
14. Violation as a self-harm method
15. Hyperventilating
16. Too outwards-focused to notice own distress
17. Unsure how to reinforce boundaries
18. Self-doubt
19. Culture shock
20. Perpetrator doesn't speak your native language
21. Your partner knows you so well - maybe there is more to it?
22. Your partner doesn't know you at all - maybe you weren't clear about your boundaries?
23. Concerned about hurting the other person's feelings
24. There are people watching
25. Embarrassment
26. The perpetrator is a respected authority figure
27. Fight or flight doesn't leave much room for dialogue
28. Too overwhelmed
29. Too apathetic
30. Too focused on observing own reactions
31. Unable to put the specific problem into words
32. This type of violation happens all the time
33. Confusion
34. Stress
35. Went non-verbal
36. Fear
37. Unhealthy coping methods for past trauma make you wonder whether the violation is actually a good thing
38. Scared of being disrespectful
39. Don't respect the other person enough to let them in on your feelings
40. You're asleep * +

nomnom 1.11.17 - 08:25pm
41. Don't know what constitutes assault
42. Don't want to have to reassure the poor offender's ego that, no, they're not a bad person.
43. Don't want to disappoint
44. Lack of experience
45. You've had a rough week (month, year, life) and can't handle any more sh*t
46. Assaulter is non-consensually placing hypnotic triggers
47. Too busy having flashbacks
48. Denial
49. Physical restriction
50. Hungry/Sleep deprived
51. Your partner is sick, sad or impaired in some way and you want to make them feel better
52. You're not neurotypical and it takes longer to process
53. You're not neurotypical and thrill-seeking is part of your symptoms
54. You're suffering from alexithymia
55. You're used to repressing negative emotions
56. You are bored and are staring at the curtains
57. Dissasociation
58. Disbelief
59. There's emotional pressure to comply
60. Amusement at the other person's abysmal consent practices
61. The perpetrator told you they were hardc*re and you don't want to be a ninny
62. Pride, jealousy, having something to prove
63. Dependent on the offender for shelter, food, money and speaking up is too risky
64. You think you will never find another partner if you say no to this one
65. Can't talk; laughing
66. Can't talk; crying
67. Can't talk; mouth full of genitalia
68. You wanted to see where your limits are
69. Limits are not where you expected them to be
70. There's money involved (gifts, dinner) and you feel guilty
71. They drove for a long time to meet you
72. Trauma bonding makes it hard to speak up
73. Surely it was just an accident
74. You love each other very much
75. You agreed that they could do some activites, so it is implied you must also be agreeing to others
76. Does not fit with self image that you are being assaulted
77. 'This is how it's supposed to work.'
78. 'Women can't r*pe men.'
79. You are trying to be pleasing to someone you * +

nomnom 1.11.17 - 08:26pm
80. you've been defending, apologizing, and enabling predators for years but suddenly realize OMG ITS HAPPENING TO YOU but are clearly to ashamed and guilty to say a thing for fear of being a hypocrite

For those who can't understand why someone might not speak out or say stop or try to get away when having consent violated. Hope this makes some people think. * +

3mel 1.11.17 - 08:31pm
saw this today...

[link]cops won't save you from getting stabbed:http://youtu.be/jAfUI_hETy0[/link] * +

iilmadme 1.11.17 - 08:34pm
you can either get beaten and r*ped anyway or get r*ped.nothing you can do to stop it and it doesnt take many black eyes n busted lips to learn this * +

phallica 1.11.17 - 08:39pm
What the fuck lol. * +

sisfreak2017 1.11.17 - 08:43pm

NY-fu*king-PD hurray for Napkin Man! * +

9362 1.11.17 - 08:44pm
Think virtually everyone here would step in if they saw a woman being attacked * +

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